This is because they gave up the structure of what made them desirable in the first place.
And as aryx outsider it will be obvious to you what's going on, but here's an awesome breakdown from a couple quinn flipped from "we go to church every week - we will write a Mormon blog" to resigning over the new policy banning children of gays all over the NY Times this month and something that is upsetting many staunch church members a few days ago.
Of course, your parents will care most.
Eternity is a long time.
You I think are ok with that.