In the end, God is a just God. He has no idea now long it actually takes to finish boards and match. The closet is deep though I think that's seriously generalizing. I was the bishops' daughter who went to BYU but didn't go on a mission because I was already married with a 10 month old by my 21st birthday.
You have to choose what's right for you, but you have to figure it out. I see a future with him but I'm not sure whether I can handle it. My advice is, as others have said, have no expectations, expect that you will spend the majority of holidays, birthdays, family gatherings, valentines day, anniversaries alone or with other family or friends. Until then I didn't have much of a problem with his lifestyle because I still had my freedom and could focus as much as Uralesbian wanted on a career.
I have finally learned to pray to change my heart, not his. Trust me, though--you will. You need to disabuse them of this notion. Thanks for the help. Know her limits on substances.